Approach & Philosophy:

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Our Sleep philosophy is simple.

  • Children need to learn how to self-soothe.
  • Children deserve to understand what is expected of them.
  • Children need love, nurturing and support while learning new sleep skills.
  • Children need parents to believe in their limitless ability to learn and grow.

Although our main sleep principals remain the same, we also understand that no two children's sleep problems are identical. It is for this reason that parents experience frustration and confusion when they try to find answers in the numerous and differing child sleep-help books. Situations can arise during sleep work that books fail to mention. These books can present many conflicting methods. How is an exhausted parent supposed to figure out what method is best for them? How can an exhausted parent read and absorb the concepts in these books? Often, two days into choosing a method, things are not going exactly as the book said they would. You wonder, why is your child not sleeping like “so and so” who lives down the street? Her parents said that it only took her an hour to learn and they were done. Tired parents are left with self-doubt . They worry that they are failing and “doing it all wrong, therefore they give up almost as fast as they began.  Parents ask, why does it seem so hard to figure out how to get my child to sleep? Shouldn’t I know how to do this? If sleep feels confusing, it is because children’s sleep comes with many pre-conceived ideas and interpretations.

“Will there be crying?” is question we are often asked. This is a very valid question.  As parents, we are not hard-wired to hear our babies cry. Little Sleepers’ goal is to have the least amount of crying possible through the consistency of our sleep plan and the consistency with which you will implement our plan with our daily support.

Crying does not produce sleep.
Sleep is a learned skill.
Learning a new skill is frustrating.
Frustration produces crying.

There is a level of frustration your child will experience unlearning an un-productive sleep habit and developing new sleep skills. We always address the concerns of crying in our sessions. Nothing is ever “off the table” in our sessions, everything is safe for our discussion. We will never judge you for your questions, expressing your fears, your doubts, your concerns, your sensitivities and your vulnerabilities. Everyone comes to parenting having a different family history. This means that parents can often come to parenting with differing family values and philosophies. We feel it is our objective to listen and to take everyone’s feelings into consideration when creating your child’s sleep plan. Our goal is to take the pressure off you and/or you and your partner.

We are here to teach you the art of sleep.

Parents and their children need and deserve supportive, individualized attention. This is exactly why we work with you to create a personalized sleep program for your child – a program which not only helps your child learn to sleep, but also allows you to feel loving, positive and confident in your parenting skills.

Sleep is an essential part of a child's physical and psychological growth and development. The goal of Little Sleepers is to provide you with an instructive, nurturing and individualized program that will bring peaceful sleep and happiness to your child and your entire family.

I feel strongly about the healthy benefits of sleep. I cannot stress enough the importance of sleep to us. We must view our children’s sleep habits with as much importance as our children’s eating habits. Their growing bodies need what I like to call “sleep nutrition.” Imagine if your child were not eating properly. You would probably not ignore that fact; most likely you would quickly step into action to try to solve the problem. A child’s sleep nutrition is just as important. Sleep is a learned skill. Most of us do not even realize this. The truth is that we need to teach our children how to sleep just as you would teach them to eat, to walk, to talk etc. We really are taught in our society that our children will immediately be born “Sleeping like a baby.” When that is not our story, parents begin to have a tremendous amount of self- judgment. We end up taking on undeserved shame when we cannot understand why we cannot get our children to sleep. I feel that there is an art to sleep. Many factors need to come together to create an amazing outcome. You would never ask an artist to paint a picture without a painter’s tools; a canvas, paint and paint brushes. I would never ask a child to sleep unless her parents had sleep tools ready in order to have success. The foundation of my work is to teach you how to teach your child essential self-soothing skills. Children need you, the parent, to know what you are doing because they do not know. It is our job to guide them. This it is how we can create a true feeling of safety. I do not recommend that you close the door and let your child cry all night alone. I also do not recommend that I come to your home and do sleep work for you. Your child does not know me and has no idea who I am. Your child knows and has bonded with and loves you! Children are looking to their parents to help them. Children need consistency to develop trust. With my guidance, you will teach your child how to be a good sleeper. You will know just how to handle future sleep situations. You will feel confident and empowered. Nobody ends a session with me feeling unsure, without tools. My goal is for parents to feel so confident that they would be able to do my job!
— Annika Brindley